It is common for the bride and groom to desire to include as much information as they can think on their wedding invites, principally because they want to eliminate any doubt that guests might have. However, some words or details are worth omitting from the invitations. For example, many couples have the habit of including details regarding registry on the invitations. Including such information on the invitations is quite inconsiderate on the part of the bride and groom. Encouraging the guests to submit their concerns regarding gifts and registry is the best approach. Do not force the guests to buy gifts or visit the registry.
Many couples are wont to display ‘No Gifts’ or words to that effect on the invitations. The No Gifts display might appear a kind way of encouraging the guests, but they might not share this thought. Moreover, the inclusion of such wordings on the invitations is not advisable. Many couples would prefer to have weddings where children are not part of the guests. If this is the case, find a way of telling guests that children are not allowed, without including words such as ‘No Children’ on the invitations. When sending wedding invitations online, be careful with the choice of words as they might have a negative connotation.
It is common for couples to use the bulletin boards at their workplaces to post invitations to the wedding. This is a very wrong approach. The couple can never control the number of guests that show up at the wedding by inviting guests through the bulletin boards. Moreover, inviting guests through the bulletin boards can have a very negative effect. The coworkers might decide to carry their entire families or neighbors and friends to the wedding. The effect of this is that foods and drinks might run out before everybody has partaken of his or her share. The sitting might be inadequate to handle such big numbers.
Dictating the acceptable dress code that all guests ought to wear might come out as quite inconsiderate of the bride and groom. Some of the guests might be very comfortable with the idea of wearing black tie suits for any event. Expecting them to show up at the wedding while dressed in black tie and tuxedos would convince the guests to remain at home. If the bride and groom feel like encouraging their guests to attend while in black tie attire, they should find a gentle and creative way of stating this. For example, writing words such as ‘black tie optional’ or ‘black tie invited’ would be a more suave way of passing out message regarding dress code.
Finally, the use of pre-printed labels on the envelopes through which the couple expects to send invitations is highly discouraged. If the couple prefers sending out cheap wedding invitations, probably because they expect to raise some money for alcohol and other drinks, they should do so but find a way of informing the guests about the presence of alcohol. However, information regarding alcohol should not have any bearing on whether any guest can attend the wedding. While preparing the invitations before sending, give the entire process ample time. Remember that some guests shall respond fast, while others will delay their response.
